Relationships- Game, Standards and the Inverse Square Law of attraction theory.

WARNING: Sarcasm ahead...

Well there's Game and there's Standards. 

Standards is what you want in a relationship be that financially, physically, spiritually etc. 
Game is what you offer. Most people focus on their standards, which they continually raise while ignoring their game.  Now ideally what we all want is someone with a lot more game than we have but with standards just low enough to let us in. 

Now of course there are the two extremes. If someone for example had all game and no standards they're either a liberal college girl or a hooker. If they have all standards and no game they're a prude, an ice queen, or a republican male on a college campus. But in between these two bookends of failure most people find themselves closer to the following:

If you date a lot of people but can never find the right one, because all the people you date turn out to be scumbags well then, your game is fine, you need to raise your standards. 

If you haven't dated anyone in forever and cant seem to get a desperate person to look at you then your game, you have none. Work on that. Dont blame other people, you're being selfish by requiring others to offer more to you than you are to them. Probably go for girls/guys out of your league as if you deserve it. The sooner you realize you dont deserve anyone but you have to earn the right to be loved and accepted, the better. God loves you just the way you are, everyone else deserves you to at least make an effort...you know, read a book, learn to be funny and interesting in conversation, go work out etc. 

Now there is something working against anyone with high standards low game that I call the inverse square law of attraction. 

Stephans inverse square law of attraction theory:

Take the amount you are attracted to someone, invert that emotion so that its now revulsion, square that amount and thats how much the person you like dislikes you. Reverse for people to whom you aren't attracted. Neutral remains neutral. 
So in short, if you like someone become as ambivalent towards them as quickly as humanly possibly (disliking them is the goal but that's difficult) and it will increase the odds they like you. If you dislike someone call them, txt them and do as many nice things for them as you can until you un-nerve them and make them hate you. 
People despise what they dont have to work for. So, be a jerk. You'll violate everything that's good and decent about yourself....but you wont be single!

But really it isn't about being a jerk, it's about being occupied, appearing busy and desirable. Pretend to be more rare and scarce than you are and suddenly people will like you. Now you're going to have to actually get and be busy, like take up school, or really get into the gym or super involved at the Church etc. The mere act of being committed and devoted to something is attractive. So go all in. You'll begin to notice the effects of the inverse square law diminish greatly.  The less time you have for a relationship the more ready you are for one. Seems counter intuitive, but it's the way the world works, you going to resent it or embrace it?

So get busy.